Lately I have begun to wonder and before I get too in depth I would like people to know that before they get insulted...its not my intentions and just read on...trust me.
This realization that I will soon divulge that is long and very in depth, came to me tonight at cosmic bowling when a guy who is 22 came up to me and started chit chatting. He was cute, had a good smile, was interesting, and seemed like a good guy until one of his friends (who i know from league bowling) mentioned he was married, had two kids (7 and 1) and was trying his normal pick up lines with me (because he-the married father- was use to girls being idiots playing into his game). I naturally said something to him but that is not what this blog is about.
I began to wonder tonight when I was dropping people off at their respective homes, why is it that people in certain areas get married so young? Is this because I was raised in a city and they were raised in the "country"?
Exhibit A: Gary and Nikki: Madly in love. High School Sweethearts. Two people that are so very right for each other and found each other so long ago (relatively "long ago" we are young so hey its relative!). Raising a handsome HANDSOME young man. And an exhibit of two people I feel will always, no matter what, have each others back.
Exhibit B: Karl and Amber: Two people who I was definitely protective of both of them when they started dating, but went through thick and thin, got strong, and had a look in their eyes that was something I am glad to witness from day one. Also, raising a handsome smart young man that looks more and more like his father everyday and is nothing short of amazing.
Exhibit C: Last but certainly NOT least: Cindy and Kendall: two people that I am happy everyday to call my framily and think about their family constantly. These two had a spark from day one that was nothing short of amazing. As soon as Cindy and I took our adventure across the States the day after we met each other, I knew we would be life long friends that NO MATTER WHAT would never go away. The love they had was an instant lock of eyes and passionate arguing about little things but still never hurtful and would never NOT end with amazing kisses between them. Two people who are now engaged but have to amazing almost 4 years olds that I am proud to be in their lives as Aunti Em.
Back to my point. These three great couples-so in love and happy (all with boys by the way-odd...how is there only one girl :)) fell in love at such a young age.
Now granted, I was engaged and much in love, but felt like it wasn't right. Is this because of how I was raised? because of the city? or because i felt like I was missing out?
I do not know the answers to any of these questions. I just know that if I was in my 30s like Jesse Taylor or Jim Osborne who found their one true loves I wouldn't mind.
OR if I was like Jesse Brown or Fritz Mercer who lived the dream, didn't have a care in the world, and plain and simple knew who they were and loved every second life had to offer them- I wouldn't be missing out.
HOWEVER, when I see a married man with children hitting on a single kinda older woman- I thank my lucky stars I was never in this position and quite frankly if I was his wife, knew his behavior, that kid would be sleeping on a park bench for years before I talked to him agaiin!!
All and all- its okay to be like Gary and Nikki, Amber and Karl, Cindy and Kendall, Jesse and Jim, or Jesse, or Fritz, it doesn't matter because all of these people are being true to themselves, following their hearts, living their dreams, and are just plain and simple being happy!!!
That is the true meaning of life-
EM
Sunday, April 4, 2010
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
Old and New Goals
Tonight I found an old diary of mine and one entry in specific I would like to share with you. Naturally, I have added some on here as well. The entry was about goals I wanted completed by the time I turned 28. The stars note completed goals.
1) Go to Germany
2) Volunteer and/or support the Special Olympics
3) Run a Marathon
*4) Learn how to crochet
*5) Learn to quilt
*6) Get a bachelors degree
7) Get a master's degree
*8) Own a dog
9) Visit Alaska (or maybe live there-added on recently)
10) Stay fit
11) Go to Scotland with my Grandpa
12) Go to Italy
*13) Learn to throw a football
14) Belong to a roller derby team (new one)
15) Make my own wine (new one)
*16) Learn to box
17) Learn self defense
18) Go to Japan and China
19) Make a difference in some one's life unexpectedly
*20) Be on a bowling league
*21) Learn to shoot a gun
22) Go snowmobiling
*23) Ride a motorcycle (even if its the back of one)
24) Go snow shoeing
25) Go cross country skiing
1) Go to Germany
2) Volunteer and/or support the Special Olympics
3) Run a Marathon
*4) Learn how to crochet
*5) Learn to quilt
*6) Get a bachelors degree
7) Get a master's degree
*8) Own a dog
9) Visit Alaska (or maybe live there-added on recently)
10) Stay fit
11) Go to Scotland with my Grandpa
12) Go to Italy
*13) Learn to throw a football
14) Belong to a roller derby team (new one)
15) Make my own wine (new one)
*16) Learn to box
17) Learn self defense
18) Go to Japan and China
19) Make a difference in some one's life unexpectedly
*20) Be on a bowling league
*21) Learn to shoot a gun
22) Go snowmobiling
*23) Ride a motorcycle (even if its the back of one)
24) Go snow shoeing
25) Go cross country skiing
Sunday, January 31, 2010
Marley- and no i don't wanna talk about it
"Said said
Said I remember when we used to sit
In the government yard in Trenchtown
Oba, ob-serving the hypocrites
As they would mingle with the good people we meet
Good friends we have had, oh good friends we've lost along the way
In this bright future you can't forget your past
So dry your tears I say
No woman, no cry
No woman, no cry
Oh my Little sister, don't she'd no tears
No woman, no cry
Said, said, said I remember when we used to sit
In the government yard in Trenchtown
And then Georgie would make the fire light
Log wood burnin' through the night
Then we would cook corn meal porridge
Of which I'll share with you
My feet is my only carriage
So I've got to push on through
But while I'm gone...
Everything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
No woman, no cry
No, no woman, no woman, no cry
Oh, little sister, don't she'd no tears
No woman, no cry
No woman, no woman, no woman, no cry
No woman, no cry
Oh, my little darlyn no she'd no tears
No woman, no cry, yeah
any sister no she'd no tears, no women no cry
No woman no cry, no woman no cry
No woman no cry, no woman no cry
Say, say, said I remember when we used to sit
In a government yard in Trenchtown
Obba, obba, serving the hypocrites
As the would mingle with the good people we meet
Good friends we have, oh, good friends we've lost
Along the way
In this great future,
You can't forget your past
So dry your tears, I say
No woman no cry, no woman no cry
Little darling, don't she'd no tears, no woman no cry
Say, say, said I remember when we used to sit
In the government yard in Trenchtown
And then Georgie would make the fire light
As it was, love would burn on through the night
Then we would cook cornmeal porridge
Of which I'll share with you
My fear is my only courage
So I've got to push on thru
Oh, while I'm gone
Everything 's gonna be alright, everything 's gonna be alright
Everything 's gonna be alright, everything 's gonna be alright
Everything 's gonna be alright, everything 's gonna be alright
Everything 's gonna be alright, everything 's gonna be alright
So woman no cry, no, no woman no cry
Oh, my little sister
Don't she'd no tears
No woman no cry
I remember when we use to sit
In the government yard in Trenchtown
And then Georgie would make the fire lights
As it was, log would burnin' through the nights
Then we would cook cornmeal porridge
Of which I'll share with you
My fear is my only courage
So I've got to push on thru
Oh, while I'm gone
No woman no cry, no, no woman no cry
Oh, my little darlin'
Don't she'd no tears
No woman no cry, No woman no cry
Oh my Little darlin', don't she'd no tears
No woman no cry
Little sister, don't she'd no tears
No woman no cry"
Said I remember when we used to sit
In the government yard in Trenchtown
Oba, ob-serving the hypocrites
As they would mingle with the good people we meet
Good friends we have had, oh good friends we've lost along the way
In this bright future you can't forget your past
So dry your tears I say
No woman, no cry
No woman, no cry
Oh my Little sister, don't she'd no tears
No woman, no cry
Said, said, said I remember when we used to sit
In the government yard in Trenchtown
And then Georgie would make the fire light
Log wood burnin' through the night
Then we would cook corn meal porridge
Of which I'll share with you
My feet is my only carriage
So I've got to push on through
But while I'm gone...
Everything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
Ev'rything's gonna be alright
No woman, no cry
No, no woman, no woman, no cry
Oh, little sister, don't she'd no tears
No woman, no cry
No woman, no woman, no woman, no cry
No woman, no cry
Oh, my little darlyn no she'd no tears
No woman, no cry, yeah
any sister no she'd no tears, no women no cry
No woman no cry, no woman no cry
No woman no cry, no woman no cry
Say, say, said I remember when we used to sit
In a government yard in Trenchtown
Obba, obba, serving the hypocrites
As the would mingle with the good people we meet
Good friends we have, oh, good friends we've lost
Along the way
In this great future,
You can't forget your past
So dry your tears, I say
No woman no cry, no woman no cry
Little darling, don't she'd no tears, no woman no cry
Say, say, said I remember when we used to sit
In the government yard in Trenchtown
And then Georgie would make the fire light
As it was, love would burn on through the night
Then we would cook cornmeal porridge
Of which I'll share with you
My fear is my only courage
So I've got to push on thru
Oh, while I'm gone
Everything 's gonna be alright, everything 's gonna be alright
Everything 's gonna be alright, everything 's gonna be alright
Everything 's gonna be alright, everything 's gonna be alright
Everything 's gonna be alright, everything 's gonna be alright
So woman no cry, no, no woman no cry
Oh, my little sister
Don't she'd no tears
No woman no cry
I remember when we use to sit
In the government yard in Trenchtown
And then Georgie would make the fire lights
As it was, log would burnin' through the nights
Then we would cook cornmeal porridge
Of which I'll share with you
My fear is my only courage
So I've got to push on thru
Oh, while I'm gone
No woman no cry, no, no woman no cry
Oh, my little darlin'
Don't she'd no tears
No woman no cry, No woman no cry
Oh my Little darlin', don't she'd no tears
No woman no cry
Little sister, don't she'd no tears
No woman no cry"
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Wow- long time no post...
Well, it has been quite a long time since I have posted so it is about time that I do a quick update.
I am about to finish my third week back in school. It is a little rough getting back into the swing of things, but I am certainly enjoying myself. It is very interesting being one of the oldest people in all of my classes - especially when the other students find out that I am getting my masters degree and another bachelors...I think they may be a little bit intimidated. Tomorrow, is my first test in my Geography class which shouldn't be that bad. I truly believe that I am well prepared for it! Hopefully it will turn out the way I plan and I will be spending another semester on the dean's list!
The past couple of weekends I have spent in Green River hanging out with Fritz and playing poker. Last weekend I was only there for Saturday but it was certainly a good time. I conned Fritz and his roomie into grilling some steaks that I brought up. They were delicious!!! It has been a long time since I had a great steak and I was stuffed the rest of the night.
I do have to mention that it has been a little bit lonely in Laramie these past couple of weeks. Mel is up in Casper doing her student teaching but I am lucky that I still see her a fair amount of time because she catches rides down from Casper. This weekend she will be coming into town on Friday and then I will be taking her back up to Casper on Sunday. We plan on going to see a local band play in Centennial: Patti Fiasco!! Awesome band and it has been a while since we have all seen them play. Hopefully we can talk Mischkey to come too.
Even though it has been a bit lonely I have had a lot of time to get to know Powers a lot better and we have been watching Weeds on a weekly basis at her house. Also, I have been having a great time hanging out with Sean. Speaking of which, our bowling team is doing really well this part of the bowling season. We have two new people: Angie and Ryan Taylor.
hmmm... I guess nothing else new in my neck of the woods... hopefully I will have some pictures to post soon. AND hopefully there will be more interesting things to post...
muah!
I am about to finish my third week back in school. It is a little rough getting back into the swing of things, but I am certainly enjoying myself. It is very interesting being one of the oldest people in all of my classes - especially when the other students find out that I am getting my masters degree and another bachelors...I think they may be a little bit intimidated. Tomorrow, is my first test in my Geography class which shouldn't be that bad. I truly believe that I am well prepared for it! Hopefully it will turn out the way I plan and I will be spending another semester on the dean's list!
The past couple of weekends I have spent in Green River hanging out with Fritz and playing poker. Last weekend I was only there for Saturday but it was certainly a good time. I conned Fritz and his roomie into grilling some steaks that I brought up. They were delicious!!! It has been a long time since I had a great steak and I was stuffed the rest of the night.
I do have to mention that it has been a little bit lonely in Laramie these past couple of weeks. Mel is up in Casper doing her student teaching but I am lucky that I still see her a fair amount of time because she catches rides down from Casper. This weekend she will be coming into town on Friday and then I will be taking her back up to Casper on Sunday. We plan on going to see a local band play in Centennial: Patti Fiasco!! Awesome band and it has been a while since we have all seen them play. Hopefully we can talk Mischkey to come too.
Even though it has been a bit lonely I have had a lot of time to get to know Powers a lot better and we have been watching Weeds on a weekly basis at her house. Also, I have been having a great time hanging out with Sean. Speaking of which, our bowling team is doing really well this part of the bowling season. We have two new people: Angie and Ryan Taylor.
hmmm... I guess nothing else new in my neck of the woods... hopefully I will have some pictures to post soon. AND hopefully there will be more interesting things to post...
muah!
Sunday, January 10, 2010
I've been Gilmored...please don't do it again!
So this past week I took Batman and Sage to Omaha with me - due to an unforeseen emergency the Hayfords were dealing with. Thank goodness Aidan is out of the hospital now and is looking better- from what I can tell in the pictures! YAY!!
Omaha was a great time away from Laramie and i really needed it because i had to get some doctor's visits done and pick up more of my stuff from my parents house. I naturally went over to my Grandparents house for dinner...oddly enough my grandma was talking up a storm about one of my cousins friend...then as I am loading my truck up i receive a text message from my Aunt Mindy saying: "We are sitting at a bar with some really handsome nice college guys."
Really people...Really? While i understand and appreciate the fact that my family wants me to be happy I insist that they please do not continue to hook me up with guys. I have no problem whatsoever finding men in Laramie...thank you but no thank you!
ugh...
No much else new here in my world except i am starting school tomorrow!!! whoot whoot!
Omaha was a great time away from Laramie and i really needed it because i had to get some doctor's visits done and pick up more of my stuff from my parents house. I naturally went over to my Grandparents house for dinner...oddly enough my grandma was talking up a storm about one of my cousins friend...then as I am loading my truck up i receive a text message from my Aunt Mindy saying: "We are sitting at a bar with some really handsome nice college guys."
Really people...Really? While i understand and appreciate the fact that my family wants me to be happy I insist that they please do not continue to hook me up with guys. I have no problem whatsoever finding men in Laramie...thank you but no thank you!
ugh...
No much else new here in my world except i am starting school tomorrow!!! whoot whoot!
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Thursday, December 17, 2009
A weekend well spent-
It is about time that I finally write about the amazing weekend I had-especially since I am coming up on another weekend. I have been slacking.
To begin, Friday was an amazing night at bowling. My first game I bowled my regular average, right around the 70s. My second game...I GOT A TURKEY!!! For those of you who do not know what a turkey is-it is three strikes in a row! My score for the second game was 144. Naturally, my third game was right around my average again. Tomorrow is our tournament positioning round, meaning we may not be in last place anymore! :-)
After bowling Fritz finally made it into town and we hung out a little bit before it was obvious that I had enough. That wild turkey shot I had to take for my turkey in bowling really caught up with me. No I did not get sick just very buzzed!! It is whiskey! I just can't drink the stuff!!
Saturday, after Fritz and I rolled out of bed at around 11 or so we headed out for lunch at the Library and had a couple of beers. It was a good time just sitting and chatting each other up. It is nice to finally enjoy a man's company again, getting butterflies when he touches me, and just loving his smile and his eyes. I was very impressed when I went to pay for lunch that he basically demanded to put my credit card away. It was the tone of voice that told me that he was the man that likes to give and take. A MAJOR BLESSING! I've never been use to a man that stood his ground and I found it incredibly attractive. Of course, I have realized over the past single months (almost a year) that I need and want a strong man that isn't going to be afraid to stand his ground!
After we returned home to my house and taking a nap... because I was exhausted! He went to Jesse Brown's house (my friend and his friend that introduced us) to shower, while I did the same. He picked me up at roughly 7:30 after requesting that I wear a cleavage shirt- which I gladly did :-) (hey now you all know my nickname- I'm not scared!). We were heading to dinner when he mentioned that Jesse was trying to convince him to take me up to Lander. I, being spontaneous, said "Let's go!"
So that night we ended up in Lander, WY, hanging out with a bunch of his climbing friends. I thought this was going to be awkward and what not but it was a fantastic time!!!!!! I love being spontaneous again, really enjoying life, and just having fun!!
After this weekend, I have really been able to see how much I have really become the person I want to be. I enjoy having fun, smiling all the time, not being afraid of who I am because I am scared of the reaction a man will give me. The way I see it- if he doesn't like me for me, I plain and simple don't wanna be with him!
I really just can not explain the great time I had with Fritz this past weekend. I enjoyed the car ride to Lander and back just getting to know him. So far he seems like a total package...which those of you who are reading this probably know I rarely say that. In fact Stew-heart even said he hasn't seen me this happy with me and a dude in years!
An update on the next couple of weeks. Franzi my friend from Germany will be returning to Laramie on Saturday for a couple of weeks. I am very excited about this even though it was suppose to be Friday when I saw her but her flight got delayed in France (silly frogs!). This coming wednesday is my last day of work before returning to school in January. Thursday the 24th I will be going to Omaha with my friend Mel for Christmas and a couple of days (of course shopping for my New Years dress) and returning back to Laramie on the 27th or 28th. Then on the 29th or 30th (I can't remember) Fritz will be coming down to Laramie after his trip to Charlotte (where he is from) for New Years ( as you know my FAVORITE HOLIDAY - gold star, right?!).
Sadly, Mel will be moving to Casper for her student teaching and living with April Hicks up there, Franzi will leave to go back to Germany, Fritz will go back to Rock Springs, and I will be doing nothing, relaxing, and preparing for school.
Well I know i keep saying this but i promise to post pictures...Cindy loohoo you have to see this boy! :-)
Ciao!!
To begin, Friday was an amazing night at bowling. My first game I bowled my regular average, right around the 70s. My second game...I GOT A TURKEY!!! For those of you who do not know what a turkey is-it is three strikes in a row! My score for the second game was 144. Naturally, my third game was right around my average again. Tomorrow is our tournament positioning round, meaning we may not be in last place anymore! :-)
After bowling Fritz finally made it into town and we hung out a little bit before it was obvious that I had enough. That wild turkey shot I had to take for my turkey in bowling really caught up with me. No I did not get sick just very buzzed!! It is whiskey! I just can't drink the stuff!!
Saturday, after Fritz and I rolled out of bed at around 11 or so we headed out for lunch at the Library and had a couple of beers. It was a good time just sitting and chatting each other up. It is nice to finally enjoy a man's company again, getting butterflies when he touches me, and just loving his smile and his eyes. I was very impressed when I went to pay for lunch that he basically demanded to put my credit card away. It was the tone of voice that told me that he was the man that likes to give and take. A MAJOR BLESSING! I've never been use to a man that stood his ground and I found it incredibly attractive. Of course, I have realized over the past single months (almost a year) that I need and want a strong man that isn't going to be afraid to stand his ground!
After we returned home to my house and taking a nap... because I was exhausted! He went to Jesse Brown's house (my friend and his friend that introduced us) to shower, while I did the same. He picked me up at roughly 7:30 after requesting that I wear a cleavage shirt- which I gladly did :-) (hey now you all know my nickname- I'm not scared!). We were heading to dinner when he mentioned that Jesse was trying to convince him to take me up to Lander. I, being spontaneous, said "Let's go!"
So that night we ended up in Lander, WY, hanging out with a bunch of his climbing friends. I thought this was going to be awkward and what not but it was a fantastic time!!!!!! I love being spontaneous again, really enjoying life, and just having fun!!
After this weekend, I have really been able to see how much I have really become the person I want to be. I enjoy having fun, smiling all the time, not being afraid of who I am because I am scared of the reaction a man will give me. The way I see it- if he doesn't like me for me, I plain and simple don't wanna be with him!
I really just can not explain the great time I had with Fritz this past weekend. I enjoyed the car ride to Lander and back just getting to know him. So far he seems like a total package...which those of you who are reading this probably know I rarely say that. In fact Stew-heart even said he hasn't seen me this happy with me and a dude in years!
An update on the next couple of weeks. Franzi my friend from Germany will be returning to Laramie on Saturday for a couple of weeks. I am very excited about this even though it was suppose to be Friday when I saw her but her flight got delayed in France (silly frogs!). This coming wednesday is my last day of work before returning to school in January. Thursday the 24th I will be going to Omaha with my friend Mel for Christmas and a couple of days (of course shopping for my New Years dress) and returning back to Laramie on the 27th or 28th. Then on the 29th or 30th (I can't remember) Fritz will be coming down to Laramie after his trip to Charlotte (where he is from) for New Years ( as you know my FAVORITE HOLIDAY - gold star, right?!).
Sadly, Mel will be moving to Casper for her student teaching and living with April Hicks up there, Franzi will leave to go back to Germany, Fritz will go back to Rock Springs, and I will be doing nothing, relaxing, and preparing for school.
Well I know i keep saying this but i promise to post pictures...Cindy loohoo you have to see this boy! :-)
Ciao!!
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